I categorically have nothing to say as I type this. I just watched the most inspiring video from Shonda Rhimes, creator of ‘ Scandal’. Are you doing something you love? I totally am. My dream was to create something of my own and somewhere in between doing something I love and sharing it the world I lost the soft girl. I became this tough, no nonsense go getter who would do everything to make her dreams work. That type of resilience is good in the world of business but its longevity is debatable.
See, the soft side is supposed to nurture with love. The softer bits of our lives like empathy, kindness, optimism and vulnerability are what make us human. I was more exposed to a word of cynicism, always thinking people have something up their sleeves that I forgot to shape the world that loves me. A little caution in needed in our business affairs but just how much is too much?
The simple things like spending time with family, playing with the kids are really what make life worth the while and sometimes when we lose the hum (that part of us that truly loves what we do), it is because we forgot to feed the soft and compassionate bits of ourselves.
Everybody who has a dream and has dared to pursue it definitely understands the fire. The burning desire to be part of something great. It is the hum. The fiery fuel that keeps you going at the thought of doing something you are truly passionate about. One day you wake up and the hum is gone. The one thing that you live for, you do not any more. Walking to work and sitting on your desk is the Zombie Apocalypse. Talking to clients is tedious. Meetings become boring and the focus and excitement is just gone! The hum is gone.
Finding your inner cool will take time. It may even take more time than you though it would but that is the beauty of it all. That somewhere at the end of the dark cloud is the piece of us that is capable of love and compassion. That some of our motivation to keep working will be the random phone calls from family and occasional gifts and celebrations. Then slowly, but surely, the hum returns and we are happy again. Then we can balance work and play, and feel in control!
Here’s to working on the hum, which is why you may not see me on the blog often but it is what makes me human. Just taking the deserved break to find compassion in the things that mean a lot to me but are not work.at